Well according to Liz Kreutz, on the abc news blog on relationships you should "Beware Your Partner's Sudden Interest in Fitness"
This is found under the "advice" section of their blog. How can this be advice?
I found my partner reading this today and it is probably what pissed me off the most. Losing weight is such a journey, such a life changing one. And fitness? I have come to absolutely love fitness and running. In fact Liz I am running my first full marathon next weekend after being obese for my entire adult life. I do not appreciate the fact that my journey has been belittled in this article, that my partner was reading it and actually let it feed into his own insecurities about my journey for a few minutes.
The fact is we have been together for 8 years. He knew me as obese insecure Colleen, he fell in love with that version of me. And then together we had out beautiful daughter. I was not happy for a long time, I lived on 7 medications a day one of them being an anti depressant. It was not happy times for me, I was a mess. Having my daughter made me realize I had to start living.
I started to take an interest in losing weight and FITNESS. I started losing weight, I started getting healthy, I was able to come off my medications. I started to feel something I had not felt in years, confidence. I felt alive for the first time in a long time, and after that first 5K I ran in September of 2010 I had a new love of running.
But one love that has not changed, this entire time is the love I have for my partner. I loved him when we looked like this:
And he loves me still even though I look like this:
But here is the most important thing, even though I have changed on the outside, on the inside I am still the same woman with the same heart. And I love him still.
So please beware when giving advice, it is not always accurate. And to everyone else, please realize that some things on the internet are just garbage and you cannot really take it all to heart, if your partner has taken an interest in fitness, I encourage you to embrace it and share in their interest. Who knows it might be more fun to go running together than you think :)
11 comments:
So true. Love, love this.
I heard this same idea on an NPR show--maybe "Wait, Wait Don't Tell Me?"--they were joking about it, and quoted a study of some sort. I agree that it is damaging because many people who lose weight for all the right reasons then have to deal with their partner's insecurity and that's not fair--and that misplaced jealosuy/lack of trust can be damaging!
You have good reason to be mad. Great thoughts!
i LOVE "wait, wait, don't tell me!"...
yes, this was a baaaad move by ABC. sheesh.
this is one of my favourite posts.
keep on lovin'!
;)
Coco you hit the nail on the head for me, HE was reading this and buying into it..... It hurts to know sometimes that my success and new found health is causing my partner to be insecure and jealous, and articles like this just diminish my hard work
Amen. Seriously, what an awful "advice" article.
So true!
They make headlines for whatever they think will sell. 10 years ago, I was trying to learn how to eat healthy and all of the "healthy" living magazines emphasized weight loss and calorie cutting. Even though I didn't need to lose weight (I just wanted to be healthier) I ended up with an eating disorder by convincing myself that I had to cut calories wherever possible. I don't blame the media for my eating disorder, but it certainly didn't help. . .
Tons of divorces DO happen when one spouse gets in shape. It's true.
oh my goodness, that article is HORRIBLE. So much for trust.
Id missed this.
I DISAGREE WITH THIS.
Love your pics and sharing....now to get ABC to see your rebuttal.
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